It’s Valentine period and, well, some healthy doses of s*x are going to take place among lovers. But, how long should s*x last for it to be considered fantastic or good?
Generally, stories of s*x that lasts all night long tend to impress listeners. However, researchers are saying that in reality, good s*x should not last more than 13 minutes!
Indeed, scientific studies suggest that the more preferred duration of s*x, on average, is between five and 13 minutes. And though some sexual encounters might last a slightly longer period, the average time of 13 minutes is really the most common.
Some studies, such as a 2005 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, even report a median time of between 5.4 and 7.5 minutes!
In 2012, a team of researchers from the University of New Brunswick measured the duration of both the IELT and foreplay.
IELT, meaning “intravaginal ejaculatory latency time,” is defined as the time between the moment an erect penis enters a v*gina and the moment that penis begins to come.
The study asked men and women in relationships to report how long an ideal foreplay session should last, as well as ideal intercourse.
Then they timed their actual s*x lives in the comfort of their own bedrooms. The couples reported an average of 11 to 13 minutes of foreplay, and seven to eight minutes of intercourse.
S*x expert, Tracey Cox, warns that ideally, sex may not last longer than 13 minutes because the natural lubrication women enjoy doesn’t last for ever.
“Therefore, going for too long might prove painful, especially if the intercourse is in one position,” the s*x guru says.
Cox notes that there’s a perception that women crave longer sex, saying, “while some women enjoy uninterrupted, prolonged s*x, apparently, the majority really don’t.”
S*x therapists argue that s*x is considered “too short” when it lasts one to two minutes. “Adequate” is three to seven minutes, and “desirable” is seven to 13 minutes. The range for “too long” went up to 30 minutes. Anything longer, like “more than 40,” is legendary, they enthuse.
But a 2004 study in the Journal of Sex Research that did actually include foreplay found that on average, people were indulging in 11-13 minutes of foreplay, followed by 7-8 minutes of intercourse
The bottom line: S*x is more than just intercourse, and the time couples allot to it should include the time to generate arousal both mentally and physically, says s*x therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.
“That can mean lots of touching and foreplay, sharing a fantasy, reading erotica, watching porn together, or roleplaying some sort of kinky scene,” Ian says.
With long foreplay is the probability of getting fully aroused, which can help you achieve orgasm more quickly — an attestation to the possible short duration of real act of s*x.